sweet, cheers mate, I had a feeling it may be one of those but hadn't ripped any out to then see if the power windows work or not, ill give that a go and go from there
I found that it is the very bottom left relay, will be wiring up my TDR-P over the weekend hopefully if I find the time, cant wait, will be also running a wire off to the sunroof fuse so it also has a 30sec delay